Journal Exercises - Action that can make a DifferenceActions That Can Make An Immediate Difference


The following is not a list to tell you what you should or should not do in your marriage or relationship. Rather it is a list of possible actions that you might consider that can immediately shift the atmosphere in your relationship or home.


  • Make a point of greeting your spouse when you see each after a day at work with a kiss, a hug, or simply “hello!”
  • Phone when you are going to be later than expected
  • Use one another’s name when speaking to each other
  • Be home when you say you are going to be home or call to explain

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  • Give up a “singles” activity that separates you or causes discord
  • Make a point of saying “good night” to one another before going to bed
  • Leave a note for your spouse in the morning if you’re leaving before the other awakens. Keep it simple, such as “Good morning”, “Have a nice day”, “You’re special”, “I enjoyed last night”
  • Cease all swearing or name calling
  • Do an extra chore around the house
  • Pick up after yourself, if you have a habit of leaving things lying around
  • Turn off the TV earlier than usual
  • If your spouse is a TV watcher and you aren’t, sit and watch TV together for one program
    Find an activity you can do together
  • Acknowledge a special quality of your spouse in every dialogue letter
  • Cease all criticism
  • Call during the day just to say hi. Keep the conversation short. Don’t go on and on.
  • Participate in your community together

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*Journaling exercises written by Cort Curtis, Ph.D, used with permission.