Upsetting Behaviors in Another
Dear _________________,
A behavior that I am most upset about is_________________________________________________________________
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What behavior? Describe the behavior in detail. When/Where does it happen?
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The impact of this behavior on me is ____________________________________________________________________
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The needs in me that are not being met by this behavior are _________________________________________________
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The feelings that I feel about this behavior are____________________________________________________________
Name the feeling words. Circle the main feeling word.
Specifically, the physical sensations that I feel when I feel these feelings are
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Describe these sensations in various parts of your body. Or describe your physical posture when you feel these feelings.
On a scale of 1 to 10 the intensity of these feelings are about a _______________________________________________
It seems to me that your intentions are __________________________________________________________________
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When I feel these feelings my inner conversation goes something like _________________________________________
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The behaviors that I tend to act out when I feel these feelings are _____________________________________________
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The words that want to come out of my mouth when I feel these feelings are ____________________________________
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A previous time when I have felt similar feelings was the time when ___________________________________________
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Could be a time that goes back to childhood or anytime in-between. Could be a time in your relationship together.
My biggest fears in sharing my feelings with you are ______________________________________________________
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What I would like to see happen is _____________________________________________________________________
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Thank you for taking the time to listen to me.
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