Ripoffs and Payoffs
Part of evaluating our unpleasant emotions is seeing clearly what certain emotions are doing to us and for us. While we might feel justified in feeling certain feelings about a particular event, we sometimes miss the impact and cost of hanging on to these emotions. Furthermore we also miss the possible “payoffs” that we get from keeping certain emotions alive. When we can look at our payoffs, those reasons that we give ourselves for keeping certain emotions around, we realize that such payoffs have been poor investments at best. Below is a partial list of possible rip-offs and payoffs in regard to keeping certain emotions alive. Check off the ones you are most familiar with.
Rip-off: A handicap or impairment in your life caused by holding on to particular emotions. A Rip-off is what an emotion does to you.
Cost: The cost of an emotion is what you give up to keep the emotion alive.
It is the price you pay for maintaining certain emotions.
Pay-off: The perceived advantage to you in keeping certain emotions alive.
Your pay-off is your justification for maintaining the emotion.
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*Journaling exercises written by Cort Curtis, Ph.D, used with permission.