Make a New Year’s Resolution that Matters!
For many people, new year’s resolutions don’t last for the long haul. Since a new year’s resolution requires a stretch, what makes it successful is when it is connected to a deeper DESIRE – something that it really important to you. Your motivation has to come from within vs. from external sources.
So, first of all, what is really important to you? What would really matter to you in one year? In what ways would you like your life to be a bit different? For example, resolutions such as losing weight doesn’t usually matter in the long haul. However, having the ability to go places with my grandkids does matter if your grandchildren and being actively involved in their life are important to you. This could mean taking active steps towards a healthier you are goals to help you to be more engaged with your grandchildren.
Here’s an exercise to help you get clear on what is really important to you: imagine that you are writing the statements for your epitaph. Here lies… What are some of the most important statements you would want to have included? What do you want to be remembered for? What would others say about you?
Distill these messages into what they mean for your life today. What do they indicate is most important to you? In what ways are you carrying out these values in your life right now? What else can you do? Challenge yourself!
Second, goals should be broken down into small, actionable steps. Your new year’s resolution is best thought of as a goal, something you would like to achieve this year, not as an immediate change. What is one small thing you can do today that will help you get to where you want to be in a year? Don’t focus on having the goal achieved as soon as possible or you’ll be overwhelmed and frustrated in the long-term.
Next, research consistently shows that making a public commitment to your goals increases the likelihood of following through on them. So, for this year, post a comment stating your commitment to yourself. What is something that is really important for you this year? What really matters to you? Make it specific enough so that you’ll know when you’ve achieved it. (For example, greater happiness isn’t a goal).
Shout out your commitment! Share it publicly. What do YOU want to stand for this year? Post it in the comments section!
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