Sometimes the world can feel overwhelmingly negative. From daily news stories about the latest tragedy to comparing ourselves to others’ “perfect lives” on social media, we are often faced with a barrage of bad news that can make us feel like we are spinning out of control with no light at the end of the tunnel. While negativity is an unavoidable part of our reality, the good news is that the light at the end of the tunnel does exist, sometimes we just need help finding it again. I know what it’s like to struggle with feeling helpless and trapped by circumstances and how that weighs on your mind, your heart, and your soul.
Our lives are built upon our collection of experiences, and for some of us, those experiences are often scary, traumatic, painful, and life-altering. Often times we don’t know how to or don’t want to deal with the pain of processing those experiences, and that affects the way we face new challenges and opportunities. If you’re holding onto pain from prior interactions with family members, intimate partners, or even strangers, it can have more of an impact on your happiness and fulfillment than you may think. Let’s talk about them, process them, and learn from them together in order to free you from the shackles of shame and uncertainty.
Maybe you aren’t feeling hopeless or sad, but more lost and confused about what to do next. Sometimes in life we begin to feel stuck and unfulfilled and the idea of change seems necessary, but terrifying and unattainable. I am here to walk beside you through those questions and fears and empower you to make whatever difficult decisions you are facing. YOU are the expert in your life, not me; however I can help you sort through the uncertainty.
Because we are all unique and wellness is not one size fits all, I believe in an integrated approach to therapy. I draw from person-centered and existential theories, which create an environment where you can feel safe to share your vulnerabilities because you are cared for and not judged. Sometimes we need help with specific skills and changing our behavior—and in those cases, we will work with some CBT methodology, but my belief is that you are the expert in your life and I’m here to help you along the way. We will collaborate to create the space you need to be yourself and work through the obstacles that are causing you strife.
We have all heard that relationships take work and things aren’t always perfect, but thanks to romantic comedies and fairy tales, a lot of us secretly think that, with the right person, things shouldn’t “be so hard.” We are all guilty of having unspoken expectations and unrealistic ideas of what our partner should be to us and how they should make us feel when, in reality, we are only responsible for and in control of our own happiness.
Couples therapy is often thought of as a last-ditch effort to save a relationship. In a perfect world couples therapy would be like the maintenance we have to do to keep our cars in good running order. Whether you’ve been together six months or sixteen years, having a third party to help navigate those inevitable ups and downs of a relationship can be very beneficial. I invite you and your partner to take that step toward strengthening and/or repairing your relationship with me in session.
Take the Next Step
Asking for help doesn’t mean you can’t make it on your own. It doesn’t make you weak. Seeking help is about realizing you deserve to live a life that feels good, not one that simply looks good from the outside. We don’t always feel like we deserve that, or sometimes, we just don’t know how to get there. That’s why I’m here to help you find that worthiness and courage you’ve buried deep down underneath the doubt, pain, and despair. I look forward to meeting you and working alongside you on your journey of healing.
with Houston therapist, Randi Waller.
Randi is a Licensed Professional Counselor Intern practicing in Houston, TX. She receives supervision under ECG’s Clinical Director, Becky Reiter LPC-S. Randi earned her Master’s in Counseling from the University of Houston and holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Sam Houston State University. As a graduate student, Randi worked with clients who were struggling with the legal and personal consequences of drug and alcohol abuse. In her personal life, you can find Randi playing fetch with her rescue pup and rooting for the Houston Astros, her hometown team.