Daring Greatly – Reinventing Yourself
Reinventing Yourself for the Life you Aspire to
Do you long for a career that engages you, relationships that nurture you, and a sense of being a person whose life matters, and who can chart a course for a valued life. Do you find yourself stopped in reinventing yourself and pursuing these dreams, afraid of the vulnerability that pursuit might bring?
Join us for Daring Greatly: Reinventing Yourself for the Life you Aspire To.
This is a 12-week women’s therapy group on Wednesdays from 6:30 – 8:00pm starting April 17th. See below for more details.
In her book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead, Brené Brown offers us Guideposts for Wholehearted Living.
- Cultivate authenticity: Let go of what people think.
Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.
2. Cultivate self-compassion: Let go of perfectionism
Perfectionism is not healthy striving to be your best. It is a strategy to avoid the shame of being an imperfect human being. “A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” (Christopher K. Germer)
3. Cultivate a resilient spirit: Let go of numbing and powerlessness
Numbing, through alcohol, food, etc., is an attempt to avoid unpleasant feelings. Unfortunately, the unprocessed feelings don’t go away and numbing can become habitual. Resilience is the ability to overcome adversity. Resilient people are resourceful and good at problem-solving. They have social support, feel connected and seek help. They believe in their ability to cope.
4. Cultivate gratitude and joy: Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark
Many of us live with a sense of scarcity—not enough love, time, money, etc. We think that if only we had more, we would be happy. In fact, this fruitless pursuit has us perpetually running, like a hamster on a wheel, but never gaining the happiness we seek. People who live wholeheartedly practice gratitude for what they do have.
We may have experienced being on the edge of joy only to be overcome by vulnerability and thrown into fear. Until we can tolerate these feelings of vulnerability, we shut down in the face of joy. The antidote is to stay present and to practice gratitude for the gift of joy.
5. Cultivate intuition and trust faith: Let go of the need for certainty
Many of us strive for certainty, and trust the seeming safety of logic and reason. Unfortunately, life is inherently unpredictable and occasionally chaotic. How do we learn to trust in the face uncertainty? We cultivate faith. Faith is where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty. Intuition is not the absence of reason. In fact, researchers believe it is a rapid-fire, unconscious associating process. Sometimes it whispers, “Follow your instincts.” Other times it shouts, “You need more information!” Either way, it is a unique resource.
6. Cultivate creativity: Let go of comparison
Comparison is all about conformity and competition, measuring ourselves against others and finding ourselves (or them) wanting. Creativity allows us to express and celebrate our uniqueness.
7. Cultivate play and rest: Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
Brene Brown claims, “We are a nation of exhausted and overstressed adults raising a generation of overscheduled children.” We measure our worth by our accomplishments. We have no time for rest or play. But, stress and insufficient sleep are associated with a variety of physical and mental ailments. Rest and play recharge us to engage fully in our lives.
8. Cultivate calm and stillness: Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle
Wholehearted people aren’t anxiety-free, they are anxiety-aware. They cultivate calm and stillness by practicing mindfulness and managing their emotional reactivity. This allows them to be aware of their anxiety without over-identifying themselves with it. Stillness allows us to create an emotional space to think and feel and dream.
9. Cultivate meaningful work: Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to”
Many of us are in jobs that drain the life out of us, but we stay for the security or because we don’t believe we have an alternative. There are over 30,000 different occupations. Each provides its own opportunities to make a living and to do something meaningful. We need a whole lot fewer expensive vacations when we’re doing what we love.
10. Cultivate laughter, song, and dance: Let go of being cool and “always in control”
Are you longing to laugh, sing and dance, but you’re afraid you’ll look foolish, that people will reject you. Wholehearted people instead practice laughter, singing and dancing to create connection, to let them know they’re not alone. Mark Twain suggests:
Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you’ve never been hurt and live like it’s heaven of Earth.
Join us for the 12-session women’s therapy group, Daring Greatly: Reinventing Yourself for the Life You Aspire To, on Wednesdays starting 4/17 from 6:30 – 8:00pm to explore what your wholehearted life would be, what stops you, and how to begin to take action on making your dreams a reality. The group will be facilitated by Joan Mullinax, M.Ed., LPC Intern and Becky Reiter, MA, LPC.
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