I received this essay when working as a volunteer Houston grief counselor. I think it’s a helpful reminder to appreciate those in our lives, forgive those who have hurt and be mindful that each day in our life is a special one. Enjoy!
“Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, a neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know that at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles, you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.
Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart…forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Give everyone a chance-regardless. You never know what a certain person may mean to you until you give them a chance. So often we get caught up in our busy lives that the people sent into our lives to love and to love us are cast aside. We never act upon their presence and are held back by our own inhibitions.
Always give another chance…people do change. Talk to people you never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold you head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual, and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.
You can make your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. Most importantly, if you love someone tell them, for you may never know what tomorrow may have in store. And learn a lesson in life each day you live.”
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