Change and Transition: The Only Constant is Change
The great, whimsical author C. S. Lewis wrote, “It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.” Good point, Mr. Lewis…
Some of you might have just graduated and are shifting from being a full-time student into the world of professional work. Some of you might have been laid off recently and are forced to look for a new job. Stay-at-home parents might be returning to the workforce after raising their kids, while some of you might be looking for a job due to a divorce or a death in the family. Whatever the nature of the transition might be, it’s bound to be a little scary, a little anxiety-producing, and a little frustrating. Change and transition can threaten:
- Our pride – “How can I tell people I was fired?”
- Our identity – “I’ve always been a teacher. That’s who I am. What else can I do?”
- Our security – “How am I going to pay my bills? How can I support my family?”
- Our self-esteem – “Why won’t anyone hire me? What am I doing wrong?”
- Our relationships – “I won’t have as much time to spend with my kids.”
- Our self-confidence – “I’ve never done this before. What if I fail?”
Change is Stressful
Change is rarely easy, even when it is welcomed or planned. Periods of transition, while sometimes exciting, can also be incredibly stressful. They aren’t called “growing pleasures” – they’re called “growing pains“, and for good reason! Branching out to new phases of life forces us out of our comfort zones.
Whether we’re learning how to walk, exercising to lose weight, or looking for a new job, we’re going to find ourselves well outside our comfort zones in the land of the unknown, usually triggered by some sort of a loss and assuredly accompanied by uncertainty.
Therefore, it is important to have a strong support system in place. Reach out to caring friends and family. Seek comfort and understanding from support groups at local community centers or religious centers. Read inspirational blogs, books, or magazines for encouragement.
As cliché as it might sound, a positive attitude is crucial to achieving your goals. Avoid destructive, negative thinking and focus more on what you can do to cope with the stress in a productive manner. Pour your energy into beneficial, constructive thoughts, activities, and actions. An employer will not want to hire you if you come across as bitter, resentful, or angry, so it’s critical that you find ways to manage those negative feelings.
If you are a recent grad, switching career fields, have been laid off, or are returning to the workforce, Eddins Counseling Group in Houston is here to help. Change is a part of life, whether we want it to be or not. Change brings opportunity. Embrace it; don’t resist it. You are stronger, more flexible, and more resilient than you think. You don’t have to turn into a bad egg. You can hatch, spread your wings, and fly.
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