Valentine’s Day is Over: 9 Ways to Continue Those Romantic Feelings All Year Long

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The need for love is embedded in the very fabric of your being.

The need for love is embedded in the very fabric of your being.

Your brain actually pursues romantic love with a long-term goal to reap feelings of reward. The chemicals released through romantic feelings reward you with a state of calmness, a sense of security, and a decrease of anxiety and stress. Being in love is good for your physical and mental well-being, your self-esteem, and your relationship satisfaction.


Over time, though, you may lose sight of that fact. Then a holiday such as Valentine’s Day gives you a reminder that romance is supposed to be alive.

Yet, expressions of romantic feelings shouldn’t just be made habitually on a specific day of the year. They should last all year long!

How can you achieve that?

Ways to Keep Romantic Feelings Alive All Year Long

1. Have eyes only for your partner

In other words, keep your partner on the pedestal you put them on when you fell in love. Continue seeing them as the most attractive, funny, intelligent, and caring person in the room. It’s not at all bad to stay a little blind to their imperfections.

2. Show your partner appreciation

Look for opportunities to give positive affirmation, appreciation, and admiration to each other in words and deeds. Ask yourself what you can do daily to praise and validate your partner. Above all, be loving, even at the times you don’t feel like it.

3. Surprise your partner

Show some creativity and be spontaneous. Surprise them with breakfast in bed, a relaxing bath, a loving note in an unexpected place, or a special or personal treat (for example: a CD with some of the most famous love songs, such as, “I Can’t Help Falling in Love,” by Elvis Presley, ”I Will Always Love You,” by Whitney Houston, or “My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion).

4. Make your relationship a daily priority

No matter how busy you are, find time for each other. Carving out at least 10-15 minutes a day just for the two of you without distractions will keep your romance from withering. Power down your electronics, make eye contact and just enjoy talking.

5. Do new things together on a regular basis

Enjoying new and exciting activities together can be arousing because it keeps your bond and attraction to each other fresh and strong. Take turns planning a weekly date, try out new foods, watch the stars or the full moon together, spend a lazy weekend with each other, or take classes together (including couples counseling classes to help you create a healthy partnership).

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6. Allow your passion for life to carry over into your relationship

When you let your enthusiasm and excitement for all that life has to offer spill over into your love life it’s a boost for your romance. So, make sure you keep your passions going to benefit from the emotional energy they create.

7. Cultivate intimacy

Touch, kiss, hold hands, communicate about deeply personal matters, such as your passions, hopes, and dreams. Intimacy is about connecting, being open and vulnerable, hearing, listening, and truly understanding your partner’s desires and needs.

8. Preserve a measure of independence

By maintaining a measure of independence, you can continue seeing each other in an ever-fresh perspective. Giving your partner space to do what they’re good at and observing them radiating confidence keeps the spark going and the mystery alive.

9. Enjoy your journey together

Don’t just see your relationship as a means for survival and companionship. See it as a journey together toward satisfaction and personal well-being. One that you could never make quite the same way alone.

Clearly, investing in the romantic aspect of your relationship can be done in many ways. As you continue giving your time and energy to each other, it becomes ever easier to achieve long-lasting romantic feelings.

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Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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