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self-compassion quiz eddins counseling houston

How Self-Compassionate Are You?

For most of us, finding compassion for others who are struggling is easy to do. Finding that same compassion for ourselves, however, doesn’t always come naturally. Take our quiz to find out how you respond to yourself during times of difficulty.

 

 

How I Typically Act Towards Myself in Difficult Times

Please read each statement carefully before answering. Underneath each item, indicate how often you behave in the stated manner.

1.

I'm disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.

1 out of 26
2.

When I'm feeling down, I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that's wrong.

2 out of 26
3.

When things go badly for me, I see the difficulties as a part of life that everyone goes through.

3 out of 26
4.

When I think about my inadequacies, it tends to make me feel more separate and cut off from the rest of the world.

4 out of 26
5.

I try to be loving toward myself when I"m feeling emotional pain.

5 out of 26
6.

When I fail at something important to me, I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.

6 out of 26
7.

When I'm down and out, I remind myself that there are lots of other people in the world feeling like I am.

7 out of 26
8.

When times are really difficult, I tend to be tough on myself.

8 out of 26
9.

When something upsets me, I try to keep my emotions in balance.

9 out of 26
10.

When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.

10 out of 26
11.

I'm intolerant and impatient toward those aspects of my personality I don't like.

11 out of 26
12.

When I'm going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.

12 out of 26
13.

When I'm feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.

13 out of 26
14.

When something painful happens, I try to take a balanced view of the situation.

14 out of 26
15.

I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.

15 out of 26
16.

When I see aspects of myself that I don't like, I get down on myself.

16 out of 26
17.

When I fail at something important to me, I try to keep things in perspective.

17 out of 26
18.

When I'm really struggling, I tend to feel like other people must be having an easier time of it.

18 out of 26
19.

I'm kind to myself when I'm experiencing suffering.

19 out of 26
20.

When something upsets me, I get carried away with my feelings.

20 out of 26
21.

I can be a bit cold-hearted toward myself when I'm experiencing suffering.

21 out of 26
22.

When I'm feeling down, I try to approach my feelings with curiosity and openness.

22 out of 26
23.

I'm tolerant of my own flaws and inadequacies.

23 out of 26
24.

When something painful happens, I tend to blow the incident out of proportion.

24 out of 26
25.

When I fail at something that's important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure.

25 out of 26
26.

I try to be understanding and patient toward those aspects of my personality I don't like.

26 out of 26

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Reference:

Neff, K.D. (2003). Development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223-250.