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How Self-Compassionate Are You?

For most of us, finding compassion for others who are struggling is easy to do. Finding that same compassion for ourselves, however, doesn’t always come naturally.

Research shows that self-compassion is linked to life satisfaction. Yet, we’re often kinder to others than we are to ourselves. How kind are you to YOU?

Take our quiz to find out how you respond to yourself during times of difficulty.

The short self-compassion test measures the elements of self-compassion (self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness) and the things that get in the way (self-judgment, isolation, and over-identification).

Use the scale to help you pinpoint the areas you are already doing well and the areas that need your attention to continue to nurture your self-compassion.

How I Typically Act Towards Myself in Difficult Times

Please read each statement carefully before answering. Underneath each item, indicate how often you behave in the stated manner.

Welcome to your Self Compassion Quiz

I'm disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.
When I'm feeling down, I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that's wrong.
When things go badly for me, I see the difficulties as a part of life that everyone goes through.
When I think about my inadequacies, it tends to make me feel more separate and cut off from the rest of the world.
I try to be loving toward myself when I"m feeling emotional pain.
When I fail at something important to me, I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.
When I'm down and out, I remind myself that there are lots of other people in the world feeling like I am.
When times are really difficult, I tend to be tough on myself.
When something upsets me, I try to keep my emotions in balance.
When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.
I'm intolerant and impatient toward those aspects of my personality I don't like.
When I'm going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.
When I'm feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.
When something painful happens, I try to take a balanced view of the situation.
I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.
When I see aspects of myself that I don't like, I get down on myself.
When I fail at something important to me, I try to keep things in perspective.
When I'm really struggling, I tend to feel like other people must be having an easier time of it.
I'm kind to myself when I'm experiencing suffering.
When something upsets me, I get carried away with my feelings.
I can be a bit cold-hearted toward myself when I'm experiencing suffering.
When I'm feeling down, I try to approach my feelings with curiosity and openness.
I'm tolerant of my own flaws and inadequacies.
When something painful happens, I tend to blow the incident out of proportion.
When I fail at something that's important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure.
I try to be understanding and patient toward those aspects of my personality I don't like.

 

Reference:

Neff, K.D. (2003). Development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2, 223-250.