Do You Need Marriage Help? Check Out These 7 Benefits of Couples Therapy
For one reason or another, there seems to be a stigma attached to “marriage counseling.”
In many people’s minds, you only go to couples’ therapy when something is utterly wrong in your marriage—constant fighting, problems with the children, an affair, or possible divorce.
Counseling gets looked upon as a last resort. Yet, that is such a mistaken view!
Of course, it’s beneficial to get marriage help when you go through difficult times, but it really shouldn’t just be only then that you think about availing yourself of this service.
Marriage counseling can be of so much benefit even when you’re not in choppy waters. Sometimes, you may just need a little extra help to continue on the right path or make an informed and wise decision as a couple.
So, what about you? Are you in need of some marriage help but you’re nervous about going to couples’ therapy?
If you are, consider some of these benefits of marriage counseling to put you at ease.
7 Benefits of Couples’ Therapy
1. Improve your communication
Good communication is an aspect of utmost importance in marriage. Couples counseling creates an environment where communication is key—helping you to see how you both communicate differently and teaching you both how to understand each other better. During therapy, you will learn how to effectively express and receive what both of you need and want. You will also discover how to handle frustration and truly listen to each other during a conflict in a respectful and constructive manner.
2. Strengthen your connection
Because couples therapy requires you to share your thoughts and feelings, you also get to know each other better. But not only that, you actually get to know yourself better. Far too often, partners keep a lot of things shut up inside. When you can communicate those matters to each other freely you become better at letting each other see who you truly are. That intensifies your connection and, in fact, serves to strengthen your relationship tremendously—as a couple and as individuals.
3. Enhance your intimacy
A lack of intimacy and/or sexual relations can easily lead a couple to drift apart and disconnect. It leads to feelings of rejection, insecurity, and perhaps even to infidelity. Marriage counseling can help you realign and recalibrate your relationship. During this process, you will rediscover your love, help you learn your partner’s love language, and spice up your love life. When you’re both open to change, a complete transformation can happen.
4. Create more trust
Trust is a major part of the foundation for a healthy marriage. Not only can couples therapy help you build and strengthen your trust in each other, but it can also teach you how to repair lost trust. You will learn what factors contributed to the behavior that caused the loss of trust, how to protect your relationship from any future problems, and how to get past the hurt to forgive any trespasses. So, no matter what the reason was for your trust to crumble, with marriage help you can recover and save your relationship.
5. Prevent problems
Every successful marriage needs good maintenance. This requires effort and hard work. But sometimes you may not be able to put your finger on exactly what is wrong. All you know is that you or your partner are upset or bitter about something. Couples therapy can teach you skills to find and solve issues before they turn into huge problems. Or at times, you may simply need an unbiased opinion on a certain issue from someone with more experience. Having a counselor as an advisor and/or mediator that can offer a different perspective is a huge benefit.
6. Healing rifts
Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, including a marriage. However, at times, a dispute may get out of control and one of you, or both, may say something very hurtful. Lashing out like this can reopen deep-seated and painful wounds. During couples’ therapy, you will learn to process those distressing emotions and begin healing the rift.
7. Uncover root issues
Ultimately, we are products of our past—good or bad. For that very reason, uncovering the roots of what fuels your thoughts, feelings, and behavior is an important part of marriage counseling. Getting to the bottom of an issue will help you shed the baggage you’ve carried around for far too long and remove that weight and open yourself up to wonderful possibilities. Letting go of the past will help you get unstuck, find ways to move on, and simply focus on your marital bliss. It’s essentially a fresh start!
So, perhaps you’ve been hesitant to enter couples counseling for various reasons. But hopefully, these seven benefits have given you a reason to reevaluate your opinion about getting marriage help. After all, doesn’t your relationship deserve the best chance for success?
If you’re living in the Houston, Texas, area, why not pick up the phone and contact our office at 832-559-2622 or schedule an appointment online. There are a lot more benefits of couples’ therapy we can tell you about that were not mentioned in this article.
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