June 25, 2020
A Man’s Guide to Practicing Self-Love
Written by Rachel Eddins
Practicing strong mental health can be tough for many people, but it can be especially tough for men. The societal stigma that men should seem invincible and completely level-headed when it comes to their emotions and self-esteem is part of the reason it’s so difficult for men take care of themselves mentally. It can be a real challenge to love yourself, particularly if you don’t know how to go about the process. If you find yourself to be one of these men here are some ways to get started on practicing self-love.
Tune Out Negativity
Although a tall-tailed task to take on, and much easier said than done, tuning out negativity is a great first step to improving self-love, because of the toll a negative mindset can take on your mental health. It’s important to remember that people are always going to have opinions on who you are and what you think, but it’s important to wash those thoughts away and focus on what truly makes you happy.
To do this best, focus on your core values and personality traits that you’re most proud of. Home in on these traits to drive you forward as you continue to develop personally, emotionally, and mentally. Letting go of negativity is the key first step to realizing that YOUR mindset greatly affects your mental health. You should let the desire of being true to yourself outweigh the desire to fit the mold of what others want you to be.
In terms of actionable efforts you can make right away, start with reevaluating your friendships and relationships, deciding if these offer positivity to your life. If not, try seeking out more positive companions by joining clubs to meet new people. There’s nothing wrong with getting out of your comfort zone and opening your mind up to positive people. Also, be selfish with your time and make sure you’re focusing on yourself. Negativity can take up loads of your time and can make it feel like you’re spiraling out of control. Instead, be more cognizant about using your time to focus on improving yourself and your happiness.
As you navigate life, it’s important to remember to stop and celebrate along the way. It can be easy to focus on your weaknesses rather than your strengths, however, it’s important to remember the strengths that make you who you are and to commend yourself for them. Life is truly a journey, and since you’re constantly growing (and should be open-minded about that), being able to celebrate when things go your way is a great way to continue to leap forward in your journey.
Especially in terms of goal-setting and self-reflection, being able to analyze and praise yourself on what you’re good at and what you need to improve on, will help you work closer to mastering the feelings of self-love. You should never be afraid to have a toast to what serves your ultimate happiness.
If you’re looking to celebrate in a healthy way that can nurture your mind, body, and spirit, celebrate in ways that you will thoroughly enjoy. Having dinner with your family, treating yourself to a massage, or hanging out with friends during the weekend are just some of the ways you can acknowledge your efforts and healthily share them with the people you love.
For most of us, finding compassion for others is such an easy thing. Finding that same compassion for ourselves, however, doesn’t always come naturally. Take our quiz to find out how unforgiving of yourself you actually are.
Love On Yourself
If a man is going to be serious about improving his mentality on himself, he should regularly be practicing self-care. Self-care is an act of self-love. This can include developing a routine into his day-to-day life in order to maintain his overall health. You can do this by starting a new workout routine like bodybuilding or going to the gym consistently. Making strides toward improving your physical health and wellness will make it easier to enforce positive thoughts about yourself. When we take care of our bodies we’re doing an act of self-love. And we feel better.
This can also mean keeping up with your grooming habits. Make a habit of going to your barber regularly and washing your face every night before bed. These are simple gestures that will have you feeling and looking more confident and healthier. Plus, if you have facial hair, try looking into a men’s shaving kit that can have you feeling like your best self.
Nurture your Interests
Every man’s identity is different and that means every man’s interests and hobbies will differ. However, doing your favorite things can help increase your self-esteem and give you a feeling of purpose and increase happiness. Aligning with the idea of self-care, make time each day to do some of the things that make you happiest. Whether that be listening to music, or going for a walk, doing your favorite things regularly can increase your mental health. Participating in brain-stimulating activities, like doing puzzles or writing, can help get the neurons firing and nudge you towards a more positive mood.
You Deserve This
The only way you will build confidence is truly believing that you deserve and are worthy enough to experience happiness. While it’s true every man has perceived imperfections, it’s all about turning those ideas around and cementing the philosophy that you deserve happiness and are actively working towards your end goal. If you’re willing to put forth the effort and seek the resources needed to achieve it, then you are bound to succeed.
If you find yourself struggling with your self-esteem know that there are options and resources. Reach out for a consultation soon. Eddins Counseling Group, in Houston, TX has many experienced counselors that can help improve mental health. Call us at 832-559-2622 or book an appointment online.
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