Do You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner?
- Do you feel unappreciated in your relationship?
- Have day-to-day routines replaced spontaneity and romance?
- Do you wonder if your partner still loves and understands you?
- Have you and your partner been bickering, fighting, or ignoring each other?
- Do you wish you could feel close and connected to your partner again?
- Would you like to get a blueprint of your relationship styles and prepare for marriage?
Couples Therapy Can Help You Restore Intimacy & Connection
Whether you have been with your partner for months, years, or decades, you may feel as
though you are drifting apart. Maybe you used to talk about everything, but now you only seem to discuss the dishes. You might feel as though you take on the majority of household responsibilities while your partner takes your efforts for granted. Maybe little things frequently build up into big arguments, and you feel as though you are never really heard.
You might feel lonely, even when you are in the same room as your partner. Perhaps your partner seems to pay more attention to his or her TV, phone, or computer than to you. You may wonder why you bother going home after work. Maybe your partner has violated your trust, and you aren’t sure how to feel safe and secure in your relationship again. You might just want to feel appreciated and special again.
“Charisse helped me work through communication issues with my husband. She helped me to see things different, recognize emotions and try to solve problems instead of avoiding them.”
Many Relationships Change Over Time
Bonding with others is incredibly important to human begins. When we have built a connection with another person and something disrupts that connection, we can feel angry, scared, or unsafe. Sometimes, you might find yourself reacting to those emotions by shutting down or snapping at your partner. It’s not uncommon for couples to get stuck in a pattern of bickering and negativity.
“Working with our therapist, we’ve learned tools to use during tough times to prevent arguments.”
It’s also very common to experience tension in a relationship after the “honeymoon phase” has ended. You and your partner might neglect to take the time to show love and appreciation to one another in the same ways or frequency you did when you first fell in love. As time passes, many people grow, change, and develop new values or new desires. Significant life changes and stressors, such as the birth of a child, a move, or financial worries, can also weigh on a relationship.
Everyone wants to feel loved and valued, but not all of us are skilled at communicating our needs. Many people lack positive communication role models. Others simply struggle to identify and articulate their emotions. But, with help, you can learn healthy ways to express your feelings, communicate more effectively and reconnect with your partner.
Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
Trust issues should be taken very seriously in a relationship. Trust is the key to connection, safety, and partnership. If you’ve noticed recently that your partner won’t answer the phone in front of you, or hides the phone when you’re around, you may have concerns. Or perhaps you’ve noticed that your partner is staying up late at night on the computer. Whether you suspect that an emotional or physical affair is taking place, or you know that infidelity has occurred, hope is not lost. Couples therapy can help you and your partner heal and restore your relationship. It takes time to rebuild trust, but it is possible!
Couples Counseling Intensive
A typical 45-minute session every week may not provide the necessary time to work through all your concerns especially after infidelity or when one partner is deciding whether to leave the relationship. In these cases, you might consider doing a couples counseling intensive, which is an extended session lasting 2 hours or even longer. These extended sessions allow you and your partner enough time to get to the root of the issue and begin the process of repairing your relationship. A couples counseling intensive is hard work but it can save a relationship.
With Couples Therapy, You Can Rebuild Your Relationship’s Foundation
At Eddins Counseling Group, our therapists are specially trained in couples therapy. We can help you clear away the anxiety, fear, anger, and sadness that may be blocking your way to healthy expressions of deeply held emotions. If you are clouded by negativity, you might feel hopeless and disconnected. But, you can learn to express your needs and truly know your partner again.
Our couples therapists are non-judgmental, compassionate, and understand how the brain responds to social and relationship cues. If you feel as though you and your partner have been having the same old argument over and over, your therapist can help you develop tools to recognize and break out of that pattern. We want to help both you and your partner communicate without fear of blame. Your therapist can help you learn the language of open and honest communication, which is free of criticisms, defensiveness, or personal attacks.
“I can honestly say we haven’t been happier; all the things we’ve learned in therapy so far have really helped.”
In couples therapy sessions, you and your partner can learn to clarify your needs, communicate them, and listen to one another. Your therapist will help you both implement healthy habits to meet your needs, as well as your partners. For example, you might ask for a “Thank you” to show appreciation. Your partner may need a daily kiss to show love.
Every couple and person is unique, so your therapist will help you identify the specific places that feel unfilled in your relationship. In sessions, your therapist can help you remember what first drew you to your partner and made you fall in love. With communication training and practice, you can develop a deeper and more fulfilling relationship.
Perhaps you feel that couples therapy can help, but you may have questions or concerns…
What if My Partner Doesn’t Want to Come to Couples Therapy?
Even if your partner is resistant to the idea of couples therapy, you are still welcome to come and work through your relationship issues. You can learn communication strategies that can help you communicate more effectively with your partner. You may also learn how to get your needs met in the relationship while increasing the connection between you both. You can’t force your partner to change or to join you in sessions, but you can bring positive lessons back to your relationship.
I’m Afraid I Won’t Be Understood or Listened To
Many people worry that they lack the ability to articulate their needs. Sometimes, it might feel like your partner is good at verbalizing, so he or she will dominate any conversation about the relationship. We value both partners. We can help you learn how to express yourself and feel understood. In sessions, your therapist can help to balance the conversation so that the needs of both partners are heard and explored.
I Don’t Want to be Villianized or Blamed
It’s common to worry that your therapist and your partner will gang up on you if you speak honestly about your feelings. However, our couples therapist will not take sides. We want to hear both partners’ fears, hurts, and hopes. You and your partner are both human, with flaws and strengths. In a relationship, assigning blame can perpetuate negativity and disconnection. Your couples therapist understands that no one is right and no one is wrong.
What if It’s Too Late for My Relationship?
If there has been a serious violation of trust in your relationship, restoring intimacy might seem impossible. It might feel too hard or too time-consuming. However, couples therapy is not about making a huge change to your relationship all at once. Instead, you can learn to put little strategies in place to show your partner that you are willing to try. The small things you do each day can make a huge difference in your relationship. In sessions, you can focus on taking steps toward rebuilding security, trust, and connection.
You Can Connect With Your Partner Again
We believe that you have the power to make a positive change in your relationship. The qualified therapists at Eddins Counseling Group can help you access that power and put it into action. You don’t need to feel lonely, hurt, or frustrated by the person you love any more. You can begin to strengthen your bond again.