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More than Depression: Understanding Shame Based Depression​

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There are many symptoms of depression and each individual may manifest different symptoms, or related symptoms, in different ways.

There are many symptoms of depression and each individual may manifest different symptoms, or related symptoms, in different ways. Some people, however, check off all the markers for depression yet have not been helped by a variety of treatments and therapies for depression. In these cases, it may be something more. It might be shame based depression.

Shame is an inhibitory emotion, along with guilt and anxiety. Inhibitory emotions prevent people from experiencing core emotions, like joy or anger. Sometimes inhibitory emotions can be good. A healthy amount of shame or guilt may provide helpful filters that prevent us from doing not-so-great things, like saying everything that’s on our minds, or failing to give up a bus seat to the elderly. But toxic shame, or shame based depression, means that the inhibitory emotion, shame, has taken over your ability to feel almost anything at all. It alienates you from your inner self.

What are some characteristics of shame based depression?

Shame based depression, of course, takes many forms, but if you’re trying to see if you or someone you care about may be suffering from this form of mental illness, these signs may be helpful to consider:

  • You feel that you aren’t worthy of being happy, and purposefully undermine your happiness because you’ve convinced yourself you’re undeserving.
  • You apologize for things that are not your fault and blame yourself for things you cannot control.
  • You feel ashamed of being depressed because you feel you are a burden.
  • You experience “shame anxiety.”
  • Your feelings of shame last a long time and have a tendency to spiral into feelings of despair or hopelessness.
  • You feel inferior, inadequate, or dirty, often without knowing why you feel this way.
  • Shame is triggered as often, or more so, by your own thoughts than by an external event.
  • You believe you are a bad or stupid person.
  • You believe you are unworthy of love.

What causes shame based depression?

No matter how many times others tell you that you matter or are loved and important, it won’t be effective if you suffer from shame based depression. Healing is something that needs to come from within. Working with a therapist in Houston can help you learn to identify and express your other emotions and stop putting yourself down.

Shame based depression can affect people at any age. It may happen to a straight-A student who goes off to college and feels inadequate if he or she now has a more vigorous group of peers. His parents may actually be proud of their student’s achievements and not compare their child with others, but he feels like he is letting them down. It frequently occurs in adults who’ve experienced a traumatic event in their childhood. This may be physical abuse, but could also be emotional trauma, like emotional neglect. When children don’t have parents who look after their emotional needs and wellbeing, the child learns to repress emotional needs, feeling they have no value, or will make a parent upset. For some people, shame is expressed by hiding what they perceive as weakness, so it is expressed with anger or violence. For others, it is directed inward and can result in depression.

When shame has had many years to set in, it takes time to heal from shame based depression, but recovery is possible. You deserve to start feeling better!

Start Healing Today

Our counselors have extensive training in working with, and shutting down shame through a variety of sources. We are skilled at looking beyond the symptoms to the deeper issue to help you heal from the inside out. If you suspect that shame may be at the root of your concerns, contact us. We look forward to helping you create a bigger life for yourself.

Contact one of our counselors to find out how we can help you how to cope depression. To get started now give us a call to schedule an appointment at 832-559-2622 or schedule an appointment online.

Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP on Twitter
Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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