March 4, 2018
11. My Positive Affirmations
Written by Rachel Eddins
My Positive Affirmations: “What would I like to believe?”
An affirmation is a positive statement that reverses a negative belief. If you are responsible for your beliefs, and if your beliefs truly determine how you feel, then you must have the ability to create beliefs that alter how you feel.
To be responsible for your beliefs means that you are the ruler of your mind.
Below is a sample of positive affirmations that can be applied to any situation where you are not fully at peace. You are already very adept at affirming certain negative and limiting beliefs; so can you become adept at affirming certain positive beliefs.
Practicing affirmations make them real in your life and reverses a negative inner state. In truth you can make up any affirmation that you choose that leads to pain and misery or to peace of mind.
Create Your Own Positive Self Affirmations
A positive affirmation is an “I AM” statement. It is written in present time and in the positive.
They “affirm” something that you desire. This is a simple technique that can change and redirect your automatic thinking if you incorporate them on a regular basis.
To create an affirmation, always make up sentences that are here and now statements. Good affirmations are really “I am” statements that connect into your core existence.
Good affirmations are not “pretenses” or Pollyannaish in nature. They are not pie in the sky fantasies.
Good affirmations express reality and lead to peace of mind.
Positive self affirmations can help you feel better about yourself, have a positive outlook, lower stress and reduce unhealthy coping behaviors.
Daily positive self affirmation can help you to create positive self-talk, even if you don’t actually believe what you are saying just yet. (Fake it ’till you make it!)
You can write an affirmation on a post it note and put it on your mirror, computer, car dashboard or set it as a reminder on your smart phone.
Make it a daily habit and notice your attitude change over time. Have fun with this – you deserve to feel good about yourself!
Create your own basic affirmations beginning with “I am”, “I can”, “I make”, “I am able to”, or “I have”.
Examples of Positive Affirmations:
Some samples of basic affirmations:
- Each day I think new thoughts, positive, creative, energizing thoughts.
- I am free of fear and doubt.
- I am confident.
- With every breath I take, I breathe in relaxation.
- I am strong mentally and physically.
- I am filled with vitality and physical stamina.
- I am aware of the good in others.
- I am flexible and tolerant in my relationships.
- I am filled with friendship, love and forgiveness.
Removing Negative Attitudes:
- I let go of all limiting thoughts of anxiety and doubt.
- I am free of all _____(fill in the blank – malice, hate, jealousy, resentment, tension, etc.)
- I replace it (above) with ___________.
Write your own affirmations:
More examples of positive affirmations.
Make Positive Self Affirmations Part of Your Daily Self Care Rituals
Take one or two of the affirmations you created that seem to fit for you or for your situation. For the next few days, consciously practice them by silently telling yourself these words for about a minute 3 times a day, preferably in the morning, during the middle of the day and in the evening.
Make it a kind of meditation by repeating the words slowly and thoughtfully. Try to remember to tell yourself these words as often as you can throughout the day in any situation where you find yourself without being compulsive about it.
As you practice these affirmations they will recede into the background of your existence and become more and more and expression of “who you are”.
- Write your affirmations on a 3 x 5 notecard and place them in a location you will see daily.
- Repeat the affirmations out loud to yourself at least 3 times a day!
- When repeating an affirmation, seek a relaxed state. Then place the affirmation in your mind, and hold it there for at least 30 seconds.
- Meditate on the affirmation and the evidence for its accuracy (examples from your daily life). Repeat this for each statement.
- Repeat this exercise every day for ten days. Each day, add an additional statement to your list.
- Notice how you feel after practicing this exercise for healthy self-esteem. Notice that you can appreciate your unique, positive qualities.
Go to the next journaling exercise: Identifying Core Beliefs and Changing Them
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