Increasing Low Self-Esteem

depression counseling servicesDo you find yourself regularly feeling bad about yourself? Does low self-esteem keep you from enjoying life, doing the things you want to do, and working towards personal goals?


You have a right to feel good about yourself. 


Though it may be hard to get started, try these activities to raise low self-esteem. Just start with the one thing that seems easiest to implement and work on this week.

Things You Can Do to Raise Your Self-Esteem

1. Pay attention to your needs and wants. Listen to what your body, mind and heart are telling you. For example, if your body aches from sitting too long, stand up and stretch! If your heart longs for connection, reach out to someone.


2. Take very good care of yourself. This can be hard to do if you’re feeling down or if you didn’t learn this when growing up. Perhaps you’ve learned to take care of others or perform well via achievements. Make a commitment to begin today to start taking good care of you. Treat yourself as a wonderful parent would treat their small child.


3. Take time to do things you enjoy. You may be busy, feel down or push yourself so hard you have no time for things you enjoy. Make a list of the things you enjoy doing and try one thing off that list every day. Remember #2, would you allow your child to do one thing he/she enjoys?


4. Get something done that you have been putting off. It feels great to get something done. It also frees up your energy when you no longer have to spend time thinking about what needs to be done.


5. Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities. 


6. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself. 


7. Give yourself non-food rewards. Listen to music, take a break.


8. Spend time with people. Particularly with people who make you feel good about yourself and treat you well.


9. Make your meals a special time. Turn off the TV, set the table and create a pleasing environment. Avoid discussion with others of negative or stressful topics.


10. Take opportunities to learn something new or improve your skills. 


11. Begin doing those things you know will make you feel better about yourself. 


12. Do something nice for another person. Smile at someone who looks sad. Say a few kind words to the cashier. Help your spouse with an unpleasant chore. Send someone a card.


13. Notice and distance yourself from negative thoughts about yourself. There are many negative messages that we automatically repeat to ourselves such as “I never do anything right,” or “I’m so stupid”.  Although they feel true, these are just words. Practice noticing them and letting them go like helium balloons. Each balloon carries the negative message away.


14. Make affirming lists. Make a list of what you are grateful for, five things you admire about yourself, five strengths, or your life achievements.


15. Give yourself compassion. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Remember to treat yourself as a wonderful parent would treat their child.


16. Separate “you” from your behavior. You may not have done something the way you would like to have, but that doesn’t impact who you are as a person. “I made a mistake on that report” vs, “I’m such a failure.”


17. Avoid comparing and competing. 


18. Watch out for judgment! Whether you are judging yourself or others, it sets you up for negative emotions and a critical perspective. Practice acceptance instead.


Do you need help improving Low Self-Esteem?

Contact one of our Counselor in Houston if you are struggling with Low Self-Esteem or, a harsh inner critic. Our Therapists are always ready to help you build confidence and feel better about your unique self. Book an appointment with one of our counselor who is available as well as online therapy to meet with you via phone, online or in person to discuss any Self-Esteem related question you might have.

To get started now give us a call to schedule an appointment at 832-559-2622 or schedule an appointment online.

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Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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