Being an Introvert at the Holidays

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When you hear the unofficial start of work parties, dinner parties and/or family coming to stay with you for the Holidays, are you the one to say “excellent, looking forward to it” and really mean it or are you hesitant, skeptical and unsure?



If you responded hesitant, skeptical and unsure you are not alone.  I too deal with the struggle that what “should” be fun can also cause a lot of anxiety.  What is most important to remember for those of us that are more of an Introvert at the Holidays you may ask?  Well, I have discovered in my work to remember the “I” in Introvert.  People who best deal with the stresses developing at the Holidays are those that remember to take care of oneself.  Sometimes it’s hard to put in words what we actually want but you must ask yourself what you really need?

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When I thought about what I need this holiday season with 25 family members coming into town for Thanksgiving and 10 staying in my home, I made a list and at the top was to remember I will need time to myself. I need someone to help me plan meals and I need someone to help deal with the difficult family members (we all have them!)

If you responded that you really do look forward to the holidays, parties and being with family and friends, you are like my Extroverted husband. He likes to be with “E” everyone.  I call on him to help me with my needs as it isn’t difficult for him and he enjoys planning the meals and being with all the family.  The important thing is to talk about it before everyone shows up for dinner. Knowing your personality can help you find the self-care option you need. 


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Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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