Are You Taking Your Relationship for Granted? It’s Time to Get to Work! Here’s How

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Are You Taking Your Relationship for Granted? It’s Time to Get to Work! Here’s How

Every long-term relationship has the potential to get a little stale after a while. We might think that this happens because we know the other person so well that there aren’t many surprises anymore. But the truth is that things get stale when you take your relationship for granted. Unfortunately, continuing down the path of taking your relationship for granted has the potential to lead to its demise. Here’s what you can do to get back on the right track.

Greet Each Other Every Day

This simplest of rituals can make a big difference in how connected you and your partner feel to each other. If you barely nod hello when your partner gets home or he just grunts when you arrive home, it’s a sure sign that you’re taking each other for granted. It doesn’t necessarily mean things are bad, just that you’ve become apathetic. Being intentional in your greetings when you reunite for the day is a great way to stay connected.

Seek Relationship Counseling

Are you under the impression that counseling is only for relationships that are really bad? The truth is that nearly every relationship can gain positive rewards from counseling. Your relationship doesn’t have to be bad to benefit from learning healthier ways to communicate. You can also work through any underlying issues that might be causing hidden resentments. You may even learn that some of the things you are doing to show love to your partner totally aren’t working (or vice versa). The presence of a neutral third party can make it feel safe to clear the air of minor annoyances. Read more about Relationship Counseling here.

Be More Attentive

Even if your relationship is relatively stable and drama-free, everyone wants to feel more loved and valued. If your relationship has grown a bit stale, chances are good that you’re probably not giving your partner your full attention. Even if you have to keep your phone at hand for evening work, set aside a regular period of one-on-one time with your partner at least once a day if possible. Nobody wants to feel like they come in second place to a cell phone, but sadly that is the message many of us are unintentionally sending. Even if you’re so busy that you don’t have much free time, your partner still deserves some of your undivided attention.

What is your relationship attachment style? Take this quiz and find out.

Plan and Go on Special Dates

Date night is suggested so often that it might seem like a cliché. But there’s a reason it’s such a common suggestion: it works. Even if you and your partner have been a couple for decades, there are so many things to do in Houston that you will never run out of interesting places to go. A bonus benefit of going on regular date nights is that you get to go through the ritual of putting on your best face for your spouse and get the same in return. When you make an effort to look your best and see your partner all dressed up, too, it’s not hard to remember why you fell in love in the first place.

Look on the Positive Side

There’s actually a good side to taking your relationship for granted, as long as you’re still making an effort to be kind and attentive to your partner. Taking your relationship for granted can be a positive sign of comfort and trust in the relationship itself. The goal should be to find a healthy balance: you want to be able to be comfortable but you don’t want to feel bored. Let your partner know that your relationship is a top priority by your actions, and soon you’ll be back on track.

To read more about marriage counseling, click here.

If you feel your relationship could benefit from counseling click here to schedule an appointment online, or give us a call at 832-559-2622 today.

Your attachment style influences how you react to your needs and how you go about getting them met. It impacts which partner you select and how your relationship progresses. Take this quiz to find out your Romantic Attachment Style.

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Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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