Declaration of Self-Esteem

self-esteemHow Do You Relate to Yourself?

Do you criticize yourself or feel like an imposter? We all have an inner critic with varying degrees of harshness. In many ways, our inner critic has developed to protect us from pain. It’s important that we also develop a strong inner nurturer who speaks from a compassionate and caring voice. Do you have an inner nurturer? If not, challenge yourself to work on increasing that voice each day this week. It can make the difference between feeling anxious and on edge and feeling calm and at peace.

Creating Your Inner Nurturer

For the next week become aware of the critical messages you tell yourself on a regular basis. When you catch one, take a moment to stop and respond back to the message with care and compassion. Identify and validate what you are feeling, soothe any painful emotions that are present, offer nurturing support and provide an alternate perspective to the critic’s voice.

To help you get started, recite this declaration of self-esteem to yourself. This self-esteem statement was written by Virginia Satir in her book, Self-Esteem.

Declaration of Self-Esteem


In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.

Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine.

Because I alone choose it – I own everything about me.

My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me.

If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside me.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me.

I am me and



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Rachel Eddins, M.Ed., LPC-S, CGP
Rachel’s passion is to help people discover their personal gifts and strengths to achieve self-acceptance, create a healthy relationship with food, mind and body, and find meaning and fulfillment in work and life roles. She helps people create nurturance and healing from within to restore balance and enoughness and overcome binge eating, emotional eating, anxiety, depression and lack of career fulfillment.

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