The Five Most Common Relationship Problems and What You Can Do to Prevent Them
Unless you’re a recluse, your life will include relationships with other people. From your parents to your significant other, children, friends, co-workers, and much more.
Naturally, relationship problems happen. After all, we’re individuals with our own personalities and quirks. Keeping interpersonal connections strong and smooth isn’t always easy. Problems at times abound.
What are some common relationship problems? And is there anything you can do to prevent them?
Lack of good communication is the root of many relationship problems. It doesn’t just hinder building strong relationships, it has the potential to turn a conflict situation into an all-out disaster.
How to prevent it: Obviously, you can’t communicate well when you’re distracted — checking your phone, staring at the computer, watching TV, or having your nose stuck in the Houston Chronicle. First, schedule a time to talk. During that time, put all distractions aside. Then, make eye contact, listen carefully to the other person, don’t interrupt, and wait until they finish speaking. When you finally talk, keep your voice even and calm. Rephrase and reflect back what you understood.
If you’re having an argument, understand that much of how the conflict will develop depends on whether and how you react. You can’t control anybody’s behavior but our own. It’s your choice. You can diffuse or accuse. If you’re in the wrong, don’t try to justify what you did. Admit it and apologize sincerely.
Problems involving money can range from high wedding costs that keep affecting your marriage to keeping up with the Jones’, being frustrated about earnings in comparison with others, and not sticking to agreements when borrowing from family.
How to prevent it: Take a good look at yourself and identify what value money holds for you. Your perspective and personal approach can make a big impact on how you handle money matters. Play with open cards when it comes to your partner. Be honest about your income and your debts. If an unrealistic lifestyle gets you in trouble, make a family budget and stick to it.
When you borrow money from someone, be prompt to pay it back. You may have borrowed from family, but that doesn’t give you the right to take advantage of them. Be grateful for their kindness.
Living with others may present problems with different opinions about cleanliness and orderliness. One of you may be a lot messier than the other. Perhaps both parents work and your children are not quick to handle chores. One may not like making their bed, the other tends to drop clothes everywhere on the floor. Often you may just be too tired to handle housework.
How to prevent it: Everybody should have responsibilities. Write down what needs to be done, discuss your favorite and least favorite chores, and organize who will do what. Be fair when dividing them up and keep preferences in mind. It’s less about sharing housework exactly 50/50 and more about doing it so it makes sense for everybody’s schedule and abilities.
There always seems to be a tug-of-war about who gets the most attention. You may feel pulled in various directions — your marriage, your children, your parents, your work. There are all kinds of things that can throw your priorities off balance, like a new baby or opinionated in-laws. Time and attention become a luxury.
How to prevent it: Set clear priorities and keep boundaries. You don’t have to be rude, but make sure that others know who and what your priority is. If you’re married or involved, it should definitely be your partner. Generate unity by showing interest in them, spending time together, demonstrating appreciation, and being respectful. And make clear that you won’t let others pit you against each other or dictate what you do with and within your relationship.
Lack of Trust
Without trust, you can’t have close relationships. Maybe something happened that makes your partner mistrust you — your decision, your choice of friends, your love for them. Or perhaps unresolved issues from the past prevent you from trusting anyone.
How to prevent it: Demonstrate your reliability to others. Carry your fair share of the workload, be consistent and keep promises, and don’t lie. Be sensitive, never say things you can’t take back, and don’t discount anyone’s feelings. As a married couple or a family, learn to enjoy each other’s successes. After all, you’re a team!
In the end, there will always be problems of one kind or another in relationships. But you can do your part to help prevent and minimize them (that includes seeking relationship counseling). Remember, stay realistic, recognize that other people have faults just like you do, and be willing to work on your relationships.
To learn more about how to cope relationship problem. Contact one of our Houston counselors for help. Our relationship therapist are available for face to face therapy sessions as online therapy sessions in limited area. To get started now give us a call to schedule an appointment at 832-559-2622 or schedule an appointment online.
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